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Jul 2022
1h 25m

He’s Wasting Your Time w/ Patti Stanger

Violet Benson
About this episode

Read it and weep besties. It’s the truth. Stop wasting your time over a boy who just wants you around to boost his ego, to do his bidding, and to make himself more attractive to other women. Boys are just now learning how to live without their mom doing their laundry for them, let alone know a thing about commitment yet. Boys will keep you waiting and play mind games with you, and the LAST thing we’re doing is putting up with it any longer.

Today, we welcome Patti Stanger back to Almost Adulting. As a third generation matchmaker, Patti founded the Millionaire's Club in January of 2000 after serving five years as the Director of Marketing/Special Events for Great Expectations, the oldest and largest dating service in the U.S. Given her expertise in matchmaking and Violet’s experience in dating men, the duo talks about the male logic while dating, why successful women have higher standards and don’t consider marriage in their early twenties and why we should always keep a three-man rotation. Violet and Patti also discuss the effects of poor parenting, the real reason why men take advantage of the woman emotionally, and the many complicated aspects of dating while technology is evolving. You’re gonna want your pen and paper out for this, everything you’re about to hear is FACT.


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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Introduction
  • 01:04 We all can’t be Kim Kardashan
  • 06:20 Why do we pick who we pick?
  • 08:26 If you give a man too much of anything
  • 14:52 Dating a boy versus a man
  • 18:09 You want to know what their intentions are
  • 22:05 If you allow yourself to be used
  • 25:51 Is giving an ultimatum a good idea?
  • 28:46 You get the ring when you have self respect
  • 32:07 Why do we give our hearts too quickly?
  • 35:17 Be realistic with your standards
  • 40:19 Cheating is not the end, check other options
  • 46:30 Love bombers are mostly nacissists
  • 49:05 Red flags vs green flags
  • 52:44 The effects bad relationships have on kids
  • 57:21 How do you handle the high’s and low’s?
  • 01:00:32 Why are you wasting time?
  • 01:06:37 Being able to do other things
  • 01:10:11 Do I have to calm down my intensity to not scare off men?
  • 01:13:01 What’s the best advice you’ve received?    


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