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Jul 2022
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6 Mistakes We Make in Relationships & 4 ...

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Being too critical about the things your partner does, unknowingly, makes you the toxic person in the relationship. When you get the same treatment from your partner, you often feel unappreciated and unloved without realizing that you’ve been doing the same thing to them. As this cycle continues, the foundation crumbles and the relationship inevitably fails.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty explains the mistakes we often make in our relationship and how we should be mindful of our actions to strengthen it.

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Key Takeaways:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 01:47 The common relationship mistakes we make
  • 03:53 Mistake #1: Being too critical to our partner
  • 07:42 Instead of criticizing, get creative in removing complaints
  • 09:42 Mistake #2: When jokes go too far
  • 14:57 Mistake #3: We become deflective, we become defensive
  • 17:35 Mistake #4: Disconnecting or becoming aloof
  • 19:41 Mistake #5: You focus on the value displayed in the moment
  • 22:13 Mistake #6: Our partners aren’t our coaches 

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