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Jul 2021
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The Danger of Being Overly Considerate T...

Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
About this episode

It’s a great personal trait to be considerate of your partner (especially of their needs from the last episode). However there is a danger of being overly considerate or overly pleasing in your relationship. 

You might not have ever considered this or realized that it was happening to you, but the effect can be very disruptive. It can make you feel unhappy, unfulfilled, and even disengaged from your partner. 

In this solo episode with Aaron, you will be able to recognize this pattern so you can show up even better for yourself and consequently as an even better partner!

 

Resources For Your Relationship:

  1. Register for the FREE Communication Mastery Webclass on July 20th, 2021 right here.
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About Us:

We’re The Freemans, your go-to couple for authentic and actionable relationship advice. Send us your relationship questions for the show with a DM on Instagram. As you listen to the episode, tag us on an IG story and let us know what you loved.

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