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Jan 2022
56m 8s

Friendships

Anna Toonk
About this episode

The past two years of the pandemic have brought to the forefront a lot of issues that have strained or even broken our friendships. As we emerge from months when you may have lost touch with friends and are eager to reconnect, it is important to think strategically about maintaining the level of connection you had before. In today’s episode, we re-examine some of our former friendships, their strengths and weaknesses, and how to overcome friendship break-ups.

What is it that makes our friendships such a unique relationship? Friendships aren’t driven by sexual attraction or a sense of duty, rather it is determined by choice. It is a state of affection that is recognized by both members of the relationship. In this way, it provides individuals with a sense of meaning, happiness and belonging that can penetrate every aspect of their lives. However, it is often taken for granted and may not be reciprocated by the other person — trust us, we’ve been there. 

Stay tuned as we divulge some of our best secrets on how you can create closer bonds with your friends and find like-minded individuals to navigate the world with. Additionally, we share some of our past experiences of friendships that did not go to plan, which we guarantee will have you sitting at the edge of your seat. Join us as we explore this topic and much more on today’s episode of How to Be Human!

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music, iHeartRadio, Stitcher, or on your favorite podcast platform. 

Topics Covered:

  • The importance of friendships and how they change our ability to connect with one another
  • How to identify a false sense of loyalty
  • What is it that makes friendships such unique relationships?
  • The tension between judgment and acceptance
  • Exploring the strengths and weaknesses of our former friendships

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