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Mar 2022
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Culture Clash: Couples Therapy with Carl...

Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com
About this episode

This week we’re wrapping up a series we started in February called Couples Therapy! I’ve invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for on-air counseling sessions. We’re going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes.

Because marriage takes work, and it’s important to understand that — but it’s also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it’s always worth it in the end.

Today’s couple is Carlos and Ashley. After a lighting fast dating and engagement, they’re finding themselves stuck in the area of  expectations and norms in marriage. They come from very different cultural backgrounds, and now their differences are coming to a head.

Carlos comes to marriage with certain expectations of gender roles in marriage, and Ashley comes from the exact opposite perspective. Will they be able to get on the same page, even with their different views? How does their past, childhood, and culture impact what they think and believe about marriage? How do you sort through what’s right and what’s wrong? What does it look like to create a NEW culture in their marriage, rather than try to replicate the old?

Today we unpack all of that!!!

If you’ve ever struggled with difference in your expectations or cultural norms, you’ll want to tune into this couple’s therapy session. 

And friends — this series has been such a huge hit! My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below!

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She’s also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on FacebookInstagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today!

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