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Jun 2022
46m 58s

Setting Yourself on Fire (w/ Vanity Jay)

Headgum & Nicole Byer
About this episode

Stripper and exotic entertainer Vanity Jay chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. She shares the complicated nature of dating both customers and strippers from clubs, the time she accidentally burned herself lighting her pussy on fire, and the challenges of dating a jealous partner. Plus, they help give advice to a listener seeking sex position recommendations for their partner who isn't the most endowed.

 

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