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Jun 2021
11m 51s

What Love Isn't

Rebecca Shern, Joshua Fields Millburn
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In this public episode of How to Love, Becca and Joshua discuss being in love, being loving, seeing things as they are instead of how we wish they were, how chemistry can get muddled by hormonal birth control, and how love is never defective, controlling, or conditional. Listen to the rest of episode 11 at patreon.com/howtolove.

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