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Apr 2022
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19. Gaslighting & Manipulation in Non-Mo...

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About this episode

In this episode I speak with Rachel Krantz, former editor at Bustle and Author of the book Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy. Her book is both a cautionary tale about gaslighting and manipulation and a story about the lessons and fun experiences that being open can bring.

We talk about the red flags that might indicate you are being manipulated and discuss why often times partners are not even aware that they are being abusive. We get into the topics of jealousy, swingers, and submissive dominant dynamics. Lastly, Rachel tells us why she chooses to still be non-monogamous after what she went through. 


Resources discussed:

Rachel's Book: Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy -

Love In Abundance by Kathy Labriola

Multiamory Podcast

The Network La Red 


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