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Nov 2021
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#93: How to Give Better Compliments

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Giving compliments is the easiest way to make someone‘s day and connect. But I‘ve noticed that the types of compliments we give are often not conducive to women‘s empowerment.

In this episode, you will learn...

  • the 5 steps to giving empowering compliments
  • why body-related comments are not okay
  • the difference between compliments and ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

As Lindsay and Lexie Kite from @beauty_redefined said in their book, ”If you give looks-based comments the power to build people up, you reinforce their power to tear people down. Continuing to focus on someone‘s looks, even in positive ways, uses the same framework and logic that makes apperance-based insults so lethal.”

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and share it on social media! Make sure to tag @maryspodcast

And make sure to get Mary‘s book, The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. Available in stores and online, worldwide!

Mentioned In This Episode... More Than a Body by Lindsay and Lexie Kite: https://amzn.to/3n7roxT

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