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May 2022
1h 36m

The Psychological Tricks To Become MORE ...

Impact Theory
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Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life!

Have you ever set out for a get together, family dinner, or a company meeting thinking, ‘I hope no one here likes me.’ Of course not! Though some of us have a harder time admitting to it, we all want to be liked. No one sets a goal to show at the next social event feeling awkward and unaccepted and not liked.

As social beings, our nature drives us toward being social, but our awkwardness drives us to feel (and sometimes live) like social outcasts. Vanessa Van Edwards, professional behavioral scientist and queen of the recovering awkward people, is no stranger to the show.

We’re bringing some of Vanessa’s best highlights with tips and tricks to help you put your social anxiety to rest, and walk into the next event feeling confident and capable. By following her strategies to up your likability and knowing how to unapologetically say no, you can become a recovering awkward person too.


Vanessa’s 3 Keys to Saying No:

Offer something nice to say

Do not offer a reason

Offer an alternative plan or idea (only if you want to, no obligation)


SHOW NOTES:

The Secret of Being Liked [0:08]

It’s Okay to Say No, This Is How [10:54]

Boost Confidence & Charisma [22:34]

Deal with Awkwardness [43:59]

Be More Likable Online [58:30]


Follow Vanessa Van Edwards:

Website: https://www.scienceofpeople.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/VanessaVanEdwardsYT/featured

Twitter: https://twitter.com/vvanedwards

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vvanedwards/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vvanedwards/


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