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Apr 2022
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EP279 - How to Have a Threesome with Ste...

Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.d, Psychology Of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education
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Welcome to episode 279 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Stella Harris to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can have a successful threesome, looking at cuckolding and hotwifing and how you can first bring up with your partner you want a threesome. 

 

Stella Harris is a certified intimacy educator, coach, and mediator, who uses a variety of tools to guide and empower her clients and she teaches everything from pleasure anatomy, to communication skills, to kink and BDSM. Stella has appeared at conferences across the US and Canada, and regularly provides workshops and guest lectures to colleges and universities.  
 
Stella’s writing has appeared widely, including a weekly sex advice column in her local paper. Highlights of her media appearances include speaking as an expert on Banana Slug sex and appearing on the evening news discussing the importance of sex education in schools. 

 

Stella is the author of two books, Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships, and The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes.  

    

In this episode, you will hear: 

  

  • What do we mean when we say threesome? 
  • Looking at cuckolding and hot hotwifing 
  • Why it’s important to plan your threesome  
  • The importance of clear communication and agreements when negotiating a threesome 
  • Looking at play party spaces  
  • How you can first bring up with your partner you want a threesome 
  • Understanding that a threesome in real life is not what like you see in porn 
  • The importance of aftercare after a threesome  
  • Engaging in other activities after a threesome such as a coffee or meal 
  • Why you should take things very slowly and test the waters before going deeper 

 

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https://www.stellaharris.net  

 

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