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Mar 2022
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How to Keep Your Relationships On the Ra...

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This episode explores a Buddhist tool for resolving conflict and keeping your relationships on the rails. This tool, known as the Beginning Anew practice, was designed by the Zen master Thich Nhat Hanh, who died back in January, and who we are celebrating this week on the show. On Monday’s episode, we spoke with a long-time student of Thich Nhat Hanh, Brother Phap Dung.

Today’s guest is Kaira Jewel Lingo. She was an ordained nun for 15 years in Thich Nhat Hanh’s Order of Interbeing. She's now a lay dharma teacher based on Long Island. She graduated from Stanford University with a B.A. and an M.A. in anthropology and social sciences. She’s also the author of a recent book called, We Were Made for These Times: Ten Lessons on Moving Through Change, Loss, and Disruption

This interview discusses the Beginning Anew practice and: 

  • The four steps of the practice. 
  • How even skeptics can see the value in the practice. 
  • How it can strengthen relationships and resolve conflict. 
  • Kaira Jewel's own experience with the practice as both a teacher and a practitioner.

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/kaira-jewel-lingo-repost

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