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Feb 2022
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How to Do It: The One Thing My Partner D...

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This week, Stoya and Rich advise a letter writer who wonders what they can do to have a better experience giving oral sex, and they discuss a letter from a woman looking for advice on how to explain her specific dating needs. 

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Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor

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Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing!

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