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Feb 2022
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How to Do It: I’m a Woman With a Very Ma...

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This week, Stoya and Rich advise a woman whose partner complains that she orgasms too quickly, and they discuss a letter from a woman who’s puzzled by why her boyfriend doesn’t want to have sex very often.

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So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex by Ian Kerner

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