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Feb 2022
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E381 Ask Nick - Toxic Side of Independen...

Nick Viall
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We are back with another episode of Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! Today, we are here to celebrate Valentine’s Day by bringing on some callers to answer their questions, relationships, and situationships. So whether you have a hot date, are treating yourself with delivery food, or going through a breakup, come celebrate Valentine’s Day with us as we learn that no matter our dating situation, you can learn to date yourself. Our first caller, who while abroad in Europe, gets herself into a long distance relationship. Now she wonders if she can try to make this relationship last once she moves back to the United States, making this long distance relationship even longer distance. Our next caller enjoys her self-love focused independent lifestyle, but wonders if dating could add to her busy life, or if someone else would take away from her happiness. Our last caller struggles to let go of her partner after three years of being his backup plan. 

“Don’t put more weight on this guy just because he rejected you before you rejected him!”

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