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Dec 2021
55m 44s

Before We Got Together I Identified As G...

Esther Perel Global Media
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Before they got together, he identified as straight and they identified as gay. What does it mean to make space for their queer identity while they date a straight man? And is that possible as they move into a more serious phase of their relationship? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices 
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