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Jun 2020
28m 37s

No Blueprint

BBC Sounds
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If you’re not in a committed, monogamous relationship, and you want to find someone to co-parent with — how do you even go about it? And how do you all make decisions that affect your child – the big ones and the small?

We tell three stories of co-parenting without a blueprint. A woman who met her future co-parents through a website. A trans father who co-parents with his wife and ex. And someone who has set up a network of co-parents that is about as far from nuclear as you can get.

- NHS – LGBT paths to parenthood https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-body/gay-health-having-children/ - And Baby Makes More: Known Donors, Queer Parents, and Our Unexpected Families by Susan Goldberg - Nick North – @epicdanger - BBC Actionline – LGBT https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/1nYWPTdMtKStFL2ztx1SV11/information-and-support-lgbt-issues

Presented by Freddy McConnell Produced by Dasha Lisitsina Assistant Producer: Arlie Adlington Executive Producer: Russell Finch Sound Design: Phoebe Wang A Somethin’ Else Production for BBC Sounds

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