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Jul 2020
19m 39s

Ginger Beer

BBC Sounds
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So, you’re queer and your kids are here. No matter how you became a parent, at this point, it can feel like the hardest, scariest work is really just beginning.

Freddy’s child is two years old. For now, life is all play. But Freddy is already mentally preparing for him going to school.

Will his be the only kid from a queer family? Will he get teased for it and, if so, will he be resilient? And are these even things queer parents need to worry about nowadays?

Freddy takes his hopes and fears to Anna Carlile, and her daughter Tallula.

Resources: - BBC Actionline – Bullying https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/2bDp2XwpGSYbFdYCG8QNz95/information-and-support-bullying - NHS – LGBT paths to parenthood https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-body/gay-health-having-children/ - BBC Actionline – LGBT https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/1nYWPTdMtKStFL2ztx1SV11/information-and-support-lgbt-issues

Presented by Freddy McConnell Produced by Dasha Lisitsina Assistant Producer: Arlie Adlington Executive Producer: Russell Finch Sound Design: Phoebe Wang A Somethin’ Else Production for BBC Sounds

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