In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about the double edged sword that is their contrasting personalities. The things they love about each other are also the same things that can activate the shit out of them. How do they continue to remind themselves that their differences can actually be what helps them stretch and the relationship go deeper?
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Oct 7
What if you got the life you wanted and still feel disconnected?
We were handed a blueprint for what a “good life” is supposed to look like: fall in love, get married, buy the house, have kids, build a career, and stay together. But what happens when you achieve the life you were supposed to want and realize it doesn’t actually feel like yours ... Show More
30m 13s
Oct 5
What if the person you love isn’t the person you fell in love with anymore?
Being in love and loving someone aren’t always the same thing. Being in love can be about chemistry, longing, fantasy, desire, and the way someone makes you feel. But loving someone asks something harder: can you keep seeing who they actually are as they change? Can you stay curi ... Show More
25m 52s
Sep 30
Grow Together or Grow Apart with Bryan Reeves
What happens when one person is willing to grow and the other isn’t, why growth should be an invitation rather than an ultimatum, and why sometimes the most important thing your partner needs from you isn’t perfection — it’s your willingness to lean in. In this episode, I sit dow ... Show More
55m 24s
Mar 2024
I Love You One Day, I Hate You The Next
They are a young couple with a small child and they fight non-stop. And while they each have good intentions, they struggle to hear or see each other. What initially made them fall in love with each other, they now experience as a threat. Can they learn to fight but still stay co ... Show More
53m 10s
Sep 2022
161 Couples Therapist Advice on Break Ups, Love Languages, and Conflict | Vanessa Bennett & John Kim 161
In this episode, I spoke with Vanessa Bennett and John Kim about the dynamics of relationships. Together we discussed their book that they co-wrote, called "It's Not Me, It's You," different relationship attachment styles, common relationship problems, vulnerability and discernme ... Show More
1h 6m