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Apr 2019
15m 28s

Change Your Child by Changing Yourself F...

KIRK MARTIN
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Really want to stop the power struggles with your kids? Kirk has a challenge: for the next 3 days, control your own anxiety over your child’s behavior and watch what happens. Lecturing kids tells them, “You aren’t capable of being successful without me.” When you get on your kids about every little thing, they don’t thank you for being so conscientious! They fight you. When you react to them pushing your buttons, they are now in control of you! The truth is that YOU create so many power struggles over issues that don’t matter. All because of your own anxiety. So let’s break this generational pattern for good!

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