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Sep 2021
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705: Helping Others Change in Four Steps...

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About this episode

Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson break down their simple four-step process for encouraging others to change. 


— YOU’LL LEARN — 

1) The critical question that opens others to change 

2) The best thing to do when a person doesn’t want to change 

3) The perils of giving positive feedback 


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— ABOUT PETER & HOWIE — 

Peter Bregman is the CEO of Bregman Partners. He coaches, writes, teaches, and speaks, mostly about leadership and about life. His sweet spot is as a strategic thought partner to successful people who care about being exceptional leaders and stellar human beings. Peter is recognized as the #1 executive coach in the world by Leading Global Coaches, the bestselling author of five books, and host of the Bregman Leadership Podcast. His works frequently appear in Harvard Business Review, BusinessWeek, Fast Company, Psychology Today, Forbes, CNN, and NPR.

Howie Jacobson, PhD, is an executive coach to clients ranging from startup founders to established and rising Fortune 100 leaders. He is director of coaching at Bregman Partners and head coach at the Healthy Minds Initiative, as well as host of the Plant Yourself Podcast. He’s written a bunch of books, and his mission includes helping kind and generous people grow their capability and scale their influence.

• Book: You Can Change Other People: The Four Steps to Help Your Colleagues, Employees-- Even Family-- Up Their Game 


— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW — 

• Book: Crooked Kingdom: A Sequel to Six of Crows (Six of Crows, 2) by Leigh Bardugo 

• Book: Sand Talk: How Indigenous Thinking Can Save the World by Tyson Yunkaporta 


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