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Sep 2021
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131: Don't Make This Common First-Date M...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

Ever found yourself slipping into the therapist role with a guy when what you really want is to create deep attraction with him?

Instead of being in a fun, flirtatious situation with someone who’s trying to get to know more about you, you find yourself sitting patiently while someone unloads all of their problems onto you.

You’re not alone. But there is a way out.

In this brand-new clip from a small live show, I show you how to escape the “therapist trap” with a guy so that you can keep building the attraction and tension that lead to a second date.

Matthew x

P.S. If you’d like the chance to ask me a live question—and join what is essentially a gym for your psychology, your emotions, and your confidence—consider this your personal invitation to sign up for a 14-day trial to my Love.Life Club at AskMH.com. I hope to see you there!

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