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Aug 2021
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60. Love More, Judge Less: How to Live a...

Monica Berg and Michael Berg
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Whether conscious or subconscious, judging others is harmful and – as it usually comes from a place of lack or insecurity within ourselves – says infinitely more about us than whomever we judge. Listen as Monica and Michael discuss how we can fight our instinct to judge through an embrace of mercy and compassion, and how doing so not only creates a chain reaction that truly makes the world a better place, it also leads us to transforming into who we want to be.



We never see something negative in another person so we can change them, we see it so we can change ourselves. – Michael Berg


Further readings:

This Is Water by David Foster Wallace

Radical Compassion by Tara Brach

Fundamentals by Frank Wilczek

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