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Aug 2021
1h 17m

S13E1: Come As You Are w/ Emily Nagoski

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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Oh.my.god, we're kicking off Season 13 with a bang as we chat with Emily Nagoski Ph.D., author of Come As You Are, about how to navigate all the ups and downs of our sex lives (based on science, of course). We're diving in about what makes us hit the gas pedal or breaks when wanting sex, what to do if you and your partner have different levels of sexual desire, and how to navigate our sex lives through all the stages of life (stressful times included).

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