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May 2019
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Women Aren't Nags, Just Fed Up | All Abo...

SYDNEY OPERA HOUSE
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In 2017, journalist Gemma Hartley's Harper's Bazaar article "Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up" was viewed over two billion times. Bringing long overdue awareness to the daunting reality of emotional labour in our lives, Hartley defines the largely invisible but demanding, time-consuming, and exhausting "worry work" that falls disproportionately and unfairly on all women - no matter what economic class or level of education. This household admin of mothers and wives is based on the assumption that women are better at feeling and expressing emotions.

She was in conversation with Cassie McCullagh at All About Women 2019.


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