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Jul 2021
25m 52s

Untigering with Iris Chen

MICHELLE KENNEY, M. ED
About this episode

Parenting shouldn’t be synonymous with control, but for my guest, Iris Chen, this was her reality while growing up in an Asian-American household. Our childhood experiences can shape what kind of parents we’ll become to our kids; but as their parents, it is our role to guide and care for them while also respecting their own autonomy. This is the realization that Iris came to when she saw her tiger parenting was driving her son away from her.

Iris is the author of the book, Untigering, where she shares her experience of being a tiger parent and her journey of pulling away from cultural norms for a more empathetic and respectful approach to parenting while also redefining what it means to be a successful parent. 

Don’t forget to listen to this episode to help develop a more peaceful and healthier relationship with your kids!

 

Episode Highlights:

  • Iris’ childhood growing up in an Asian-American household
  • How her tiger parenting affected her relationship with her eldest
  • Accountability and learning to let go of controlling habits
  • It’s never too late to change
  • How projection warps how we perceive our child’s behavior

 

Connect with Iris:

 

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