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Sep 2020
1h 10m

26 Cheaters (Ashley Madison)

REMY KASSIMIR
About this episode

That's right, a cheating episode. Tune in as we dive behind the scenes of one of the most controversial online dating sites, Ashley Madison and talk to members and staff about why various people cheat and have affairs. We hear the unique story of Bobby Goldman, a widow (70s) who turned to the website after her husband (a Broadway and Academy award-winning writer) died.

Bobby tells us why she prefers married men to single ones and how she turned her experience of dating 6 men at once into the successful Off Broadway show, The Curvy Widow. We chat with member "Nikki" (40s) who joined just over two years ago with her husband’s knowledge and is technically a “hotwife” as her husband encourages her to have sexual relationships with other men because it excites him.

Finally we are also joined by Isabella Mise, Communication Director of Ashley Madison, about the ins and outs of the website, their response to the 2015 data breach, and her own views on cheating.

 

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Recommendations: 

The Last Five Years (Movie)

The Secret Life of the Cheating Wife (Book)

New York Times Article on  Bobby (here.)

 

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