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Dec 2020
48m 25s

The Hidden Tragedy of Male Loneliness

THE ART OF MANLINESS
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Many men prioritize the pursuit of status, power, and autonomy, which can have its advantages in moving them towards financial security and up society's ladder. But as my guest lays out in his book, Lonely at the Top: The High Cost of Men's Success, a focus on work over relationships can also come with significant, even tragic costs. His name is Thomas Join ... Show More
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