When Bette met her husband, he was leaning against a wall at a party. He had, as she put it, “smoldering looks and banked fires.” He was from Brooklyn; she was from the Bronx. She assumed his silent “bad boy” vibe meant “dangerous love and dramatic heartbreak.”
They got married, and she realized that she’d misread his quiet demeanor: “His eyes were simply b ... Show More
Yesterday
How Alan Cumming Escaped His Father and Became Himself
The actor Alan Cumming is not the man his father wanted him to be. Growing up, Cumming says, his father had specific ideas about how he should look and what he should do with his life, ideas he enforced with abusive violence. However, Cumming tried to stay true to himself: As a t ... Show More
46m 39s
Sep 30
I’m Black, Even if You Don’t See it
For most of her life, Kelly McWilliams has felt as though people aren’t seeing her clearly. Kelly is biracial, and she was raised to be proud of her identity: she grew up surrounded by African American culture and literature. But when she walks into a room, a lot of people percei ... Show More
54m 38s
Jul 2021
I’m In Love With My Godson
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 62 year old widow and I live in the great city of Chicago. I was married for 34 years to a wonderful man and he died 3 years ago. Since then, I have secretly fallen in love with my 31 year old Godson. I know I should be ashamed of myself, but I’m not ... Show More
13m 21s
Mar 2024
My Husband and Part Time Lover
Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for four years, but we have been together six years. My husband charmed me and I was head over heels in love with him. He was always considerate and very loving, but over the years he's become distant in everything that we do. He stopped ... Show More
13m 27s
May 2024
If I Had A Dollar For Every Time…
Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm forty seven years old and my husband is seventy four. I used to work for him and we became close over the years, but we never had any romantic interest in each other. His wife passed in 2021 from pneumonia, and I was there for him. I made sure he ate a ... Show More
12m 42s
Aug 2023
She's Getting More From Him Than Money
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 51 year old man and I have a wife but I haven’t lived with her in 4 years. It’s a long story but I’ll try to make it brief. Four years ago, my cousin had a bad divorce and he needed somewhere to stay, so my wife and I let him rent one side of a duple ... Show More
16m 26s
May 2021
She’s Getting More From Him Than Money
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 51 year old man and I have a wife but I haven’t lived with her in 4 years. It’s a long story but I’ll try to make it brief. Four years ago, my cousin had a bad divorce and he needed somewhere to stay, so my wife and I let him rent one side of a duple ... Show More
16m 22s