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Nov 2020
26m 53s

Confronting Race on the First Date

The New York Times
About this episode

Andrew and Sarah met on a dating app. Their first date was just supposed to be coffee, but it lasted nine glorious hours. They talked nonstop across four San Francisco neighborhoods.

But by 2 a.m., Sarah had an admission to make. She told Andrew, who is Asian-American, that his “race might be an issue.” Andrew was shocked. The kicker? Sarah is also Asian-American.

Today, we hear both sides of this story — and find out where Sarah and Andrew are now.

Featured stories:

  • “When a Dating Dare Leads to Months of Soul Searching,” Andrew Lee
  • “Manic Pixie Real Girl,” Jerico Mandybur


Andrew’s story was recorded by Audm. To hear more audio stories from publishers like The New York Times, download Audm for iPhone or Android.

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