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May 2018
17m 28s

You're Not a 'Bad Gay'

Wnyc Studios
About this episode

JP Brammer has all the answers.

John Paul Brammer is a writer who's wrote for Into and Them. You can subscribe to "Hola Papi" here.

Episode scoring by Jeremy Bloom. Theme by Alexander Overington.

Original music by Jeremy Bloom.

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