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Nov 2019
1h 35m

Love and Marriage, Toxic Partners and Bu...

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About this episode
Love and marriage, love and marriage...in Episode 36, Ascia Sahar joins us to talk about all things relationship related. 

When it comes to toxic relationships, Ascia says she is no stranger to them. The now-mother of three walks us through the moment she knew she had to finally leave, the red flags that stuck out to her the most and how she used her connection to Allah (swt) and prayer to guide her in making that choice. 

If you find it difficult to open yourself up again after ending a negative relationship, you are not alone. Ascia advises us that although it's not easy, if you truly trust God's plan for yourself, taking that leap isn’t as scary as we think it may be. She stresses that every person we meet comes into our lives for a reason, whether it's a lesson or a blessing. 


Ascia has a piece of advice for those who are trying to figure out what it is that they want and how to heal by taking time to reflect. Use your past experiences to figure out what you really want out of a relationship. 

So, now you think you have found "The One", so what’s next? Navigating a new relationship is as awkward as it is difficult. Ascia explains how she tackled that annoying "where is this going?" question with her now husband  and the situation she found herself in when she realized this was the man she was going to marry. 

We also discuss the impacts social media has on marriages and how at times navigating a relationship in the digital world may seem a bit challenging, but Ascia let's us in on the agreement she has with her husband and how it all comes down to respect and understanding. 

Whether you're happily married, newly-engaged or single and not sure if you're ready to mingle, this conversation will help teach you vital life lessons and how to put your full trust in Allah. 


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