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Aug 2020
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Why Are We So Afraid Of Letting Go with ...

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Your happiness shouldn’t amount to the number of checkboxes you tick, but instead the things that truly put your heart and soul at ease. 

In Ep. 26 of Season 2, we sit down with Shazia Imam to talk about the fear of letting go, cultivating a relationship with ourselves and learning how to let go and put our faith in Allah’s hands. 

Shazia opens up about a very personal and vulnerable part of her life; moments she thought there was no way she could ever find happiness. She takes us through those dark moments of her prior marriage, and how she was able to pull herself out and lead a life she is proud of. 

So, we ask ourselves why are we so afraid of letting go of the things (or people)  that don’t even bring us happiness?  That’s a question we find ourselves asking way too many times. The fear of the unknown can cause us to miss out on people, moments and experiences that can truly help us change our world completely. Shazia shares with us how she was able to walk away from a life she knew she didn’t deserve, and into one full of possibilities. 

Focusing on our relationships with others is an important thing to do. Being a good mother, friend, spouse, coworker all are important roles we play. But what about the relationship we have with ourselves? You wouldn’t neglect a friend, so why do we believe that neglecting ourselves is an OK thing to do? 

Shazia also talks about how she is able to practice tawwakul- putting her trust and reliance in Allah while also accepting His plan. It is He who truly knows what’s best for us, so plan, work hard and leave the rest up to Him. 

At a time when most of us are feeling lost and hoping to stumble upon a path that leads us to a lifetime of eternal happiness, Shazia’s advice can surely get you to where you need to go.


Enjoy and remember to follow us on Instagram: @unsweetenedandunfiltered
Follow Shazia on Instagram: @thelifeengineer
Listen to Shazia's Podcast "Feminine & Fulfilled" HERE 



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