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Mar 2020
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First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage: H...

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After the big white dress is taken off, the party planners have packed away all of the decor you spent months going back and forth on and the guests have all gone home - that’s when reality really kicks in. 

In Ep. 6 of Season 2, we are joined by matchmaker, comedian and all around lovable  Yasmin ElHady aka Yasguru to discuss life after the wedding. 

Marriage is a beautiful thing - it really is! But, it also brings along some not so picture perfect moments such as picking up laundry off the floor for the umpteenth time, deciding on how to raise your kids, discussing budgets and coming to terms with the fact that you now have a roommate for life.

Marriage takes some getting used to and learning how to adjust to a new lifestyle takes time. Yasmin walks us through how to avoid losing your mind, your sanity and all of your hair. 

We totally get it : fights happen. But, learning how to diffuse the situation is critical in keeping a healthy relationship going. Yasmin explains why we need to throw out the old saying, “don’t go to bed angry.” It’s ok to walk away, cool off, and approach the issue at hand with a clear mind. 

As you scroll through your feed you see - flowers, vacations, kisses on the cheek, a new diamond ring, so on and so forth. It’s easy to get jealous and it’s hard not to compare. But, as Yasmin explains, a perfectly cropped and filtered post only captures a fraction of what’s truly happening. Social media may be the culprit but comparison is truly the thief of joy. 

Pointing the finger at your spouse every time something goes wrong is something we are all guilty of. We dive into the reasons why it’s important to note our own faults. Being self-aware can help you and your spouse get on the same page and avoid similar future conflicts. 

We also discuss preserving our identity after marriage. We all know that one person who got engaged and was never seen or heard from again. Don’t let your relationship status become your identity. As Yasmin explains, spending all day everyday with your partner will get old, real quick. You know the saying, “distance makes the heart grow fonder.’ 

Whether you're engaged, married or happily single, Yasmin has a ton of great insight when it comes to maintaining a successful marriage that's built on love, trust and a mutual understanding that dirty laundry belongs in the hamper not on the floor beside it.

Enjoy and remember to follow us on Instagram: @unsweetenedandunfiltered
Follow Yasmin on Instagram: @yasguru

Check out Yasmin on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCURpYI86UnAFDzoEAJ4FjXQ/featured






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