In this week’s essay, Lilian Oben writes about how essential it is to be seen in relationships — to be able to take up space, without being asked to change who we are. Her essay is read by Zawe Ashton ("Betrayal").
Today
A Therapist’s Emotional Tool Kit for a Better Holiday Season
<p>The holiday season is upon us. It’s a wonderful time, but if we’re being honest, it’s also a little stressful. Whether you’re worried about hosting a big family gathering, talking with cousins who have very different perspectives on politics or awkward questions from prying au ... Show More
44m 7s
Nov 19
There's a Better Way for Couples to Talk About Money
<p>According to Ramit Sethi, a personal finance author and coach, a lot of couples get stuck bickering about everyday purchases. If you’re hung up on what’s in the cart at Target, or who’s buying too many iced teas on the way to work, Sethi says you’re missing the bigger picture, ... Show More
42m 47s
Nov 12
On Our Third Date, I Asked for a Joint Bank Account
<p>Janene Lin loathed the moment when the dinner bill would hit the table. When her date would pay, she felt like her love was for sale. Splitting the bill felt like no one had anything at stake. Most of the time, she would pay the bill herself, but that left her feeling uncared- ... Show More
45m 54s
Nov 2020
To Be Less Polarized, We Must Humanize (with Esther Perel)
Baratunde ends Season One focused on the state of our relationships, a key pillar of how to citizen, and thus the health of our society after the most contentious election in modern history. In conversation with world-renowned relationship expert, Esther Perel, they discuss how t ... Show More
1h 4m
Jun 2022
How to Start Over: When Partnership Is Not the Destination
In a society dominated by romantic couples, it can be hard to accept your unpartnered state for what it is. But for the “single at heart,” the desire for partnership is nonexistent—replaced with a sense of self-sufficiency, satisfaction, and robust friendships. In this episode of ... Show More
32m 35s
Jan 2024
Say This, Not That (to keep your relationship secure & loving)
EFT therapist, author and Instagram star Julie Menanno joins us to talk about her new book, Secure Love. In this fun conversation, she helps us understand how to transform our anger, pain or resentment into validating boundaried conversations that are likely to both get us what w ... Show More
51m 42s
Oct 2023
S6, Ep 2 Best Friend Therapy: Responsibility - Do we want it? Can we balance accountability and freedom? Who are we really responsible for?
This week we’re looking at the theme of Responsibility, how we feel about it, and how its meaning might change for us over time. Whether it begins with a badge on our blazers or a ticket to teenage independence, being given responsibility might not always be such a gift, when it ... Show More
40m 48s