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Nov 2015
33m 6s

Episode 7: Lonely Hearts

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
About this episode
Jesse always wanted to fall in love. So when the perfect woman started writing him letters, it seemed too good to be true. Because it was. This week, a story about a con — with a twist. When the con was exposed, its victims defended the con artists. They still wanted to believe the lie. 
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