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Dec 2017
48m 13s

Never Go To Vegas

Hidden Brain, Shankar Vedantam
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All social classes have unspoken rules. From A-list celebrities to teachers, doctors, lawyers, and journalists — there are social norms that govern our decisions, whether we realize it or not. This week on Hidden Brain, the invisible qualities that all celebrities have in common, and how our interest in them builds because of cues we get from one another. La ... Show More
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