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Sep 2015
47m 59s

Amy Banks

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About this episode
Amy Banks, M.D., has devoted her career to understanding the neurobiology of relationships. In addition to her work at the Jean Baker Miller Training Institute (JBMTI), she was an instructor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. She is the first person to bring relational-cultural theory together with neuroscience and is the foremost expert in the combined field.
Amy is the creator of the C.A.R.E. Program, an easy to use, practical guide that helps clinicians and laypeople assess the quality of their relationships and strengthen their neural pathways for connection. Amy also has a private practice in Lexington, MA, that specializes in relational psychopharmacology and therapy for people who suffer from chronic disconnection. Most recently, Amy has joined the core group of Harville Hendrix’s Relationships First, a small group of prestigious scientists and cultural leaders who promote the idea that “healthy relationships are non-negotiable in a healthy society.”
Her latest book is: Four Ways to Click: Rewire Your Brain for Stronger, More Rewarding Relationships
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In This Interview Amy and I Discuss...

The One You Feed parable
How feeding neurons means stimulating them
How culture can feed our bad wolf
The power of isolation & how it can lead to more sickness
How humans work best in healthy connection & interdependence with one another
The importance of identifying and building healthy relationships
The "5 good things" that exist in a healthy relationship
How boundaries in relationships are overrated
The 1 sign that you are at a 340% higher risk of premature death
The 4 neural pathways that function in the relationship realm

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