Kids and smartphones may be the most important conversation parents can have right now. Clinical psychologist Dr. Johann D'Souza has spent 16 years mentoring young men and thousands of hours in the therapy room, and his message to parents is simple: never give your child a smartphone. We talk about why a phone can be more dangerous than anything we worried about as kids, how video games are keeping young men from growing up, what social media is doing to girls, and why he believes the real problem is not the child but the parents. I also share how the phone ringing at our dinner table took my own dad away from me, and how Jordan and I are learning to choose calm over constant stimulation. Dr. D'Souza is the author of Saving Teens from Toxic Screens and hosts the Virtuous Leaders podcast. Visit neversmartphone.com for his free guide for parents, and tell me in the comments: when did your child get their first phone?
Dr. Johann D'Souza is a clinical psychologist and national speaker on protecting children from digital destruction. He holds a PhD from the University of Houston and has published over 20 peer reviewed articles. After years of one on one therapy and mentoring with adolescents, he realized he could help far more families by speaking directly to parents, because they are the gatekeepers who can keep a smartphone out of a child's hands in the first place.
We talk about why addiction is so hard to break when part of us believes the habit is good, and why a phone within arm's reach at night undoes so much effort. Dr. D'Souza explains why many flip phones are smartphones in disguise, why he suggests five minutes a day of texting is all a child needs, and why he encourages parents to find even one like minded friend so their children have peers without phones too. He also shares his own conversion while studying in Rome, and why he came to see pornography as the biggest challenge young people face today.
Smartphone addiction in teens can look different for boys and girls. For boys, video games offer a feeling of progress without the effort real life requires, and that can keep young men from launching into adulthood. For girls, social media can become a full time job of curating their image, feeding loneliness rather than easing it. Underneath it all, Dr. D'Souza believes the hardest problem is not a lack of information, but our own struggle as adults to do what we already know is good.
I share my own story too: how the phone on our kitchen wall took my dad's attention at dinner, what we are doing to keep Jordan's nervous system calm, and how I am trying to fill my own phone with prayer instead of distraction. If you are thinking about children and screen time in your own home, I hope this conversation gives you courage and a practical place to begin protecting children from digital destruction. You can find Dr. D'Souza's free resources for parents at neversmartphone.com.
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Free Guide for Parents: https://neversmartphone.com/
Speaking: https://johanndsouza.com/speaking
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