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Sep 24
11m 54s

Why Being Liked Isn't Getting You Respec...

THE ART OF CHARM
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Doing great work doesn’t guarantee you’ll get credit for it. In fact, staying humble and helpful can sometimes make your best work invisible. AJ and Johnny break down the difference between approval and respect—and why high-performing analytical professionals often get trapped chasing the wrong one. They explore how avoiding conflict, waiting to be asked, s ... Show More
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