Sep 14
39m 25s
What if setting a boundary doesn't make you mean or a “bad Christian” — but is actually a way of honoring yourself, your nervous system, and the life God has given you?
In this episode, Devoney sits down with Christian therapist and licensed minister Sarah Underbrink to unpack the connection between faith, mental health, boundaries, people-pleasing, burnout, confidence, and nervous system regulation.
If you're a high-achieving woman who constantly says yes, worries about disappointing people, over-explains your decisions, or feels guilty for needing rest and space, this conversation is for you.
Together, Devoney and Sarah explore why people-pleasing can become spiritualized, why “dying to self” doesn't mean destroying or abandoning yourself, and how your nervous system can actually help you discern what is a healthy yes and what needs to be a no.
You'll also hear a powerful perspective on Proverbs 31 and what it means to have the audacity to “laugh at the days to come” — not because life is always easy, but because you trust in the God who has your future.
In this episode, you'll learn:
• Why boundaries are not unkind or un-Christian
• The hidden connection between people-pleasing and the need for approval
• Why someone else's disappointment doesn't automatically mean God is disappointed with you
• How to tell the difference between anxiety and fight-or-flight from spiritual discernment
• How to set boundaries without taking responsibility for other people's reactions
• The difference between people-pleasing and genuine kindness
• How faith and nervous-system regulation can work together rather than being treated as separate
If you're ready to spend less time overthinking, and step into a calmer, more confident, more unapologetic version of yourself, this episode is for you.
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