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Behind Closed Tabs: Your Porn Stories

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Porn. It’s something that people use in their most intimate, private moments. It’s a way to acknowledge desire — without any of the attachments of intimacy. For some of you, that's incredibly freeing. For others, it's caused some real problems.

This episode originally aired in 2016 and was produced by Chester Jesus Soria and Katie Bishop

If you have stories about using AI porn, experimenting with deepfakes, or seeing yourself depicted in one, record a voice memo and email it to us at deathsexmoney@slate.com. 

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