Insurance forms that make no sense. Subscriptions that can’t be cancelled. A never-ending blizzard of automated notifications. In this update of a 2025 episode, Stephen Dubner discovers where all this sludge comes from — and how much it’s costing us.
Jun 26
679. Why Does Vanderbilt Keep Winning?
It’s a hard time to run a university: public trust is low, political pressure is high, and finances are fragile. But Daniel Diermeier, who trained as a political scientist, has Vanderbilt humming. How? He says the key is choosing magnets over wedges. SOURCES: Daniel Diermeier, ch ... Show More
1h 4m
Jun 19
678. Who Gets to Choose a “Good Death”?
New York is the latest state to legalize medical aid in dying. Stephen Dubner speaks with the governor who signed the law, a Nobel Prize-winning economist, a death doula — and an ethicist who thinks the very idea is wrong. SOURCES: Kathy Hochul, governor of New York. Suzanne O'Br ... Show More
50m 25s
Jun 12
677. Can Backgammon Save Us from Ourselves?
It brings strangers together. It teaches probability, strategy, and emotional control. It has even helped N.F.L. teams win the Super Bowl. Stephen Dubner explores why this ancient game is having a renaissance. (Part two of a series, “We Are All Gamers Now.”) SOURCES: Remington Da ... Show More
59m 19s
Sep 2024
Why Does Dating Feel So Hard In 2024?? | Matt Monday
<p>Why does dating feel so difficult today? It can often seem like it’s a competition to see who can be more “aloof,” who can care less, who can try the least. And when you put in actual effort, it can feel like it even turns people off! Everyone seems to be looking fo ... Show More
20m 42s
Jun 2025
How to hold your standards and respect yourself - you're not "bitchy", you just KNOW YOUR WORTH.
You're not bitchy, you're not mean, you're not asking for too much. You just know your worth and refuse to settle for bad behavior. When you hold your standards, people respect you more. DETACH. FOR REAL. ACCESS HERE NOW.https://stan.store/dateyourselfinstead/p/daretodetachDARE ... Show More
36m 13s
Sep 2025
Thank god I didn't get what I thought I wanted
Ready or not, let go. This ep was recorded live from my bed (with tea and a hard seltzer), literally an hour before posting. Consider this your late-night voice memo on why we hold on too long, why trusting yourself is the only way forward, and why maybe, just maybe, thank god we ... Show More
26m 35s
Mar 2025
How to Make Them CHASE YOU Without “Playing It Cool” | Rewind
<p>We’ve all been told that we should never come on too strong, and that playing it cool is the best way to get someone interested. But how much interest is the right amount to show in the early days of dating? If we show too much interest, we worry we’ll lose all our “power,” bu ... Show More
18m 39s
Dec 2024
When They Say "I Need Time," You Say This... | Rewind
<p>Ever had someone who keeps you just on the edge? Who swings between making you feel like you’re the most important person in the world and suddenly pulling away and freaking out? </p><p>Yep, it’s totally normal. </p><p>Today, I’m going to share an exclusive video cli ... Show More
5m 43s
Jul 2025
CLASSIC: Is there enough for everyone?
While the human species is inarguably successful (for now), hundreds of millions of people struggle under daily threats of starvation, physical danger, lack of shelter and disease. And, perhaps more troubling, the numbers indicate it's possible to feed and shelter virtually every ... Show More
1h 10m