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Jun 2026
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88. Overfunctioning In Relationships

Embodied Self Therapy
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In this week’s episode of Healing CPTSD, we'll be talking about over functioning in relationships – why trauma survivors often become the caretakers, fixers, and emotional managers, and how these patterns quietly disconnect us from our own needs. We explore how childhood trauma conditions us to associate love with usefulness, emotional labour, hypervigilance, and self abandonment – but most importantly, how we can start to break free from these patterns and start cultivating reciprocal relationships.


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