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Apr 9
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820 From Anxious to Secure Attachment wi...

TERRI COLE
About this episode

Whether you struggle with the fear of abandonment or you tend to shut down when things get close, this conversation is for you.

 

In this episode, I'm joined by psychotherapist Trevor Hansen to discuss why so many of us get stuck in the attachment style "research phase" and how to actually rewire your brain for secure attachment.

We dive deep into the "origin stories" that drive our adult behaviors, the hidden link between anxious and avoidant styles, and a powerful "voice note" tool you can start using today to meet your own unmet needs.

Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/820

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