logo
episode-header-image
Yesterday
36m 39s

Repost: Sex & Aging

Wbur
About this episode
This episode was originally released on May 25th, 2018. When two women in their sixties start losing interest in sex, their sex-starved partners become increasingly frustrated. Both women blame old age for their waning libidos. But is their diminished sex drive because of age or something else? The erotic lives of senior citizens are typically made invisible by our culture, which can lead to confusion and misinformation. Dr. Pepper Schwartz, the love and relationship columnist for AARP, joins the Sugars to dispel certain myths about sex and aging: Do libidos change after menopause? How does the aging body affect the way we feel about sex? Should medical interventions be considered for a declining sex drive? Dr. Schwartz is a professor of sociology at the University of Washington and has written more than 25 books on love and sexuality. She’s also an on-air expert for Lifetime TV’s “Married at First Sight.”

The Sugars Recommend

“Our Souls at Night,” by Kent Haruf “Scary Old Sex,” by Arlene Heyman
Up next
Mar 7
Repost: Change Is A Work In Progress
Seventeen-year-old “Struggling” had big dreams to leave his small town, but his living situation was at risk because he couldn’t stop using drugs. A letter writer who called herself “Bad Mom” loved her children, but could no longer bear the demands of motherhood. Both desperately ... Show More
35m 15s
Feb 21
Repost: Should I Stay Or Go?
This episode was originally released on September 9, 2016. In this favorite episode from the archives, The Sugars bring you another "Rapid Fire" episode, where they give brief answers to a handful of letters that are all centered around a theme. The theme for this episode is "sta ... Show More
34m 9s
Jan 31
Throwback: How Do I Find The Courage To Be My Own Guide?
This episode was originally released September 23rd, 2016. The Sugars often discuss letters dealing with very specific problems or struggles. In this encore episode, they take on a broader, more existential question: how to follow your heart. The Sugars discuss with the GRAMMY-wi ... Show More
26m 41s
Recommended Episodes
Apr 2025
116. Not for Rage Bait + The Real Reason Your Friends Never Take Your Advice
Get up to 10 FREE meals at https://hellofresh.com/NOTFOREVERYONE10FM__Hello babies! Have you ever flirted to get something you want? Jess starts the episode off talking about her trip to NYC and a flirting method she used to get her boyfriend on the flight back. This leads to a d ... Show More
1h 13m
Mar 2025
113. Love Letter: How to Forgive and Forget in Friendship + Keeping Dating FUN in Your 30s | ft. My BFF Ekaette Obot
Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartnerStart with 50% off your first box with code notforeveryone50 at https://get.everyplate.com/podcast. EveryPlate offer valid with auto-renewing subscription. __Jess has told us the greatest ... Show More
1h 33m
Aug 2024
83. Love Letter: Mindset Shifts for Friends and Flings + “If He Wanted to, He Would”
Dear listener, Enclosed is a letter from the heart. It contains: • Advice on that friend who won't refund you for a trip you could no longer make • A reminder that almost every relationship let-down is more gradual than it feels in real time • A mindset shift that will help y ... Show More
1h 4m
Jul 2024
is my mum a pathological liar?
Happppy Friday babes!!! Guess who’s backkkkk - the delightful, Eilish Gilligan! We’re so excited, because we need some of her wise, sage advice. Today’s secret is a tricky one - we hear from listener Bridget, who is dealing with a toxic parent. And remember our head versus heart ... Show More
33m 51s
Jan 2025
Neko Case: ‘If I Didn’t Yell the Truth, What Good Was I?
<p>In a new memoir out next week, the singer-songwriter Neko Case shares some painful childhood memories. In the studio with Anna Martin, Case is open and unapologetically angry as she describes being treated like “an unwanted child.” Both parents, she says, struggled with trauma ... Show More
40m 55s
Jan 2025
105. Not for Wife Guys + Blake Lively and the One Thing No One is Talking About
<p>This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month.</p> <p>This show is sponsored by Skims. Check out the Fits Everybody Collection at https://www.skims.com/notforeveryone #skimspartner</p> <p>__</p> <p>C ... Show More
1h 10m
Feb 2025
111. Not For Yapping + Navigating Core Differences with Your Partner
<p>This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit https://www.betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month.</p><p>__</p><p>It’s time for a new segment! Introducing Am I The Hater, a take on Reddit’s famous Am I The Asshole threads, where listeners write in abo ... Show More
1h 23m
Mar 2025
115. Not for Bodily Horrors + How to Get More From Your Relationships
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. Visit betterhelp.com/notforeveryone today to get 10% off your first month.__Well, there’s no easy way to say this: the episode just does start out with a lot of bathroom horror stories. But it’s human, babies!! You get it. Jess and Caroline t ... Show More
1h 33m
Jul 2025
Sheila & Jackie - S5 | E4
Our sponsor for this episode is Tuwork. Whether you're a consultant, entrepreneur, or just tired of pretending your dining table is an office (where is the lie?) TuWork offers flexible packages, beautiful garden spaces, private offices, communal workspaces, meeting rooms, and eve ... Show More
1h 44m