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Feb 2026
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Why modern parenting feels so hard | Mai...

Louise Perry
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We are all descended from thousands of generations of parents who successfully raised their children to adulthood. But, unlike those parents, we all have access to plentiful food, indoor plumbing, effective medicine, and all of the other technologies that make modern life so comfortable. You might expect, therefore, that the modern experience of parenthood would feel easy. Why doesn't it?  


My guest today first started thinking about the unnaturalness of modern parenting when she became the mother of two little kids, born close together in age. She was spending much of her time alone with them and feeling acutely stressed. It set her thinking about the evolutionary mismatch between this very isolated existence, and the way in which our ancient ancestors raised their children. 


Elena Bridgers is a science writer and author of the substack 'Motherhood Until Yesterday.' Today we spoke about the many ways in which modern parenting is historically strange – from co-sleeping to alloparenting to birth spacing. What can hunter gatherers teach us about how to make parenting easier? 


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