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135: How to Heal Your Sexual Energy

Kelly Brogan MD
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How do I know if my sexual energy is healthy?


Between attention-seeking and embodied confidence lives a messy gap. There is an old Madonna–whore tug-of-war that lives in many of us, and an archetypal maturation arc to reclaiming sexuality that won’t look the same for everyone.


We start by noticing the judgments that flare and then gently trying on the characters we’ve rejected. Temptation to chase the gaze shows up, and it exposes the little parts that want to be applauded. The work is learning to relate to attention differently until the whole spectrum has a place. Press play to hear why developing a healthy relationship with your impulses changes everything.


You’ll Learn:


[00:00] Introduction

[00:35] Why the question “Is my sexual energy healthy?” opens a doorway into your relationship with power

[01:32] The difference between attention-seeking and embodied confidence in real life

[02:44] How judgment toward “that kind of woman” reveals the parts of yourself asking to be reclaimed

[04:09] What happens when you slowly step into the characters you’ve rejected

[05:13] Why exploring erotic expression in movement can become a spiritual practice

[06:02] The moment you realize your desire to be seen is a natural stage, not a flaw

[07:08] How your relationship to the gaze evolves as you mature into self-sourced confidence

[08:03] The reason skipping stages of feminine development keeps you stuck in judgment

[09:00] Why trusting your impulses is the only true compass for authentic expression


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Resources Mentioned:


The Spiritual Lessons I’ve Learned Through Pole Dance | Blog

Dear Lover by David Deida and Marianne Williamson | Book

The 3 Stages of Men & Women - Masculinity & Femininity | YouTube


Find more from Kelly:


Instagram: @kellybroganmd

Website: kellybroganmd.com

Join Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.

Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here.

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