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Nov 21
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“This Is Just Who I Am” | When Your Husb...

Chris Burkett
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Disclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.

In this 2 Be Better Podcast episode, Chris and Peaches kick things off with updates on their upcoming December 5–8 coed couples retreat, breaking down details on bunks, private rooms, who can come solo, and why these weekends are so powerful for couples and individuals who want real relationship growth. Then they dive straight into part two of a heavy email from a wife in a long term marriage, struggling with BPD, emotional safety, and a husband who refuses to change because “this is who I was when we got married.” They walk through her written letter, line by line, unpacking abandonment triggers, preloading divorce conversations, the difference between repair and resolution, and how to phrase “I” and “we” language so you are fighting for the relationship instead of fighting each other. If you are in a mentally exhausting marriage where every argument gets turned back on you, you feel like you are doing all the emotional work, or your healing journey is not supported by your spouse, this episode will feel painfully familiar and give you a clearer framework for what healthy communication and real change should look like. 

From there, they expose the darker side of a husband who openly says he will not evolve, threatens to weaponize the kids in a divorce, and treats his wife as a conversational enemy while she tries to get her BPD into remission and protect her mental health. Chris and Peaches talk hard truths about when it is time to leave, what it actually means to be “too different,” why you cannot raise your husband like a toddler, and why real partnership requires both people to grow, not just the one with a diagnosis. They also respond to a separate email about a boyfriend constantly commenting on other women’s bodies, celebrity crushes, and homemade porn in relationships, giving straight talk on lusting after others while in a relationship, self pleasure, and why “hall passes” and “it is just a movie” slowly destroy self esteem and intimacy. If you are craving blunt marriage advice, BPD relationship insight, and no nonsense coaching on emotional safety, porn, and standards in your relationship, this video will give you language, clarity, and the permission to stop settling.


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