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Nov 10
26m 52s

Riding Under Pressure, and Rising Above ...

Jocelin Lillienau
About this episode

"Pressure". Every rider feels it, whether it’s from expectations, money, owners, parents, or the quiet voice inside saying “you have to prove yourself.”

In this powerful and honest conversation, I and Lorna unpack where that pressure really comes from and how much of it is self-created. We explore how fears of failure, financial strain, self-worth, and identity all tie into the invisible weight riders carry, and how to start letting it go.

You’ll learn to recognize when pressure is helping you perform and when it’s holding you back, how to find your own “ideal pressure zone,” and how to reconnect with the real reason you ride: because you love it.

You’ll Learn:

  • Why pressure isn’t real, and how you’re actually creating it
  • The difference between healthy pressure and destructive pressure
  • How your self-worth and identity fuel performance anxiety
  • Why “doing your horse justice” often adds emotional pressure, and how to reframe it
  • How to find your optimal mindset state for peak performance
  • The secret to enjoying the sport again, even when stakes feel high

Key Quotes:

  1. “Pressure isn’t something you can touch, it’s something you create in your own mind.
  2. “You are a worthy, good human being right now, success is just a bonus.”
  3. “Pressure is a privilege, but only when you learn to manage it.”
  4. “Challenge the story you’re telling yourself, it’s often not reality.”

 

Resources Mentioned:

🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: https://www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks

Follow Jocelin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau

Follow Lorna on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lornahogarth_coaching/

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